Finding Sober Life
by AJ · 163 pages
1% Survival Rate.
He Wrote the Manual.
163 pages. 19 chapters. One decision that changes everything. A practical guide to getting and staying sober, written by someone who nearly died trying.
By AJ · Founder of SoberLife.club
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You've told yourself "this is the last time" more times than you can count.
You've Googled "am I an alcoholic" at 3am and closed the tab.
You've seen the look on your kid's face and sworn it would never happen again.
You've woken up and pieced together what happened from texts you don't remember sending.
You've sat in a parking lot, bargaining with yourself before walking into a liquor store.
You've lost track of how many Day Ones you've had.
You're not broken. You're just not done fighting yet.
The Story Behind the Book
January 27, 2024. 3:00 AM. AJ sat on his back patio, body shutting down. A Level 5 alcoholic with a 1% chance of survival. He had been to 8 treatment centers across 7 different facilities. Nothing stuck.
He texted his wife Kim. Asked her to let him die in peace. She called Beachway Treatment Center at 3:30 AM instead.
He didn't go for treatment. He went so they could deal with the body instead of his wife and kids.
“I splashed cold water on my face and looked in the mirror. This time, I didn't see the decay. I saw the animal fighting for its life.”
He spent 561 days away from his family. Treatment, sober living with veterans, isolation in an RV. He rebuilt himself from nothing. Then he wrote it all down so you wouldn't have to figure it out alone.
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Three Phases. One Complete System.
Click each phase to see what you'll learn. Every chapter ends with action steps you can use that day.
Finding Sobriety
How to survive the wake-up call, understand what's happening to your brain, and find your personal "why" that's strong enough to carry you through.
The Wake-Up Call: recognizing the moment everything changes
Understanding Addiction: what's actually happening in your brain
Finding Your "Why": the anchor that holds when willpower fails
Choosing Your Program: AA, Lone Wolf, holistic, or your own path
Relapse Prevention: building defenses before you need them
Building the Foundation
Your first 30 days, the Lone Wolf Mentality (originally built for military veterans), and how to construct an entirely new identity from scratch.
Your First 30 Days: hour by hour survival guide
The Lone Wolf Mentality: radical honesty and self-reliance
Holistic Recovery: mind, body, and spirit as one system
Building a New Identity: sobriety isn't subtraction, it's construction
The AA Question: how to use it without being defined by it
Living Sober
Managing noise in a digital world, avoiding hidden traps like kratom and delta-8, and a complete roadmap for your first five years of sober living.
Creating Your Sober Identity: who you're choosing to become
The One-Year Timeline: what to expect at each stage
Managing Digital Noise: finding serenity in a loud world
Hidden Dangers: kratom, delta-8, and gas station traps
The First Five Years: routines, relationships, career, joy
The 100-Day
Sober Launch
The book comes with a structured 100-day program baked right in. Not a suggestion. A system. With community support at every step.
“One hundred days is just over three months. That's less than a school semester. If nature can turn winter into spring in 100 days, you can change too.”
Start Your JourneyAdmit. Detox. Plan.
Radical honesty about the problem. Medical detox. Build a simple daily plan for meals, rest, and pauses.
“The first days were a descent into hell. My body, accustomed to the poison, screamed in protest.”
Defrag. Routine. Find Your Way.
Sorting real pain from recycled pain. Uninstalling toxic self-talk. Building a sacred morning routine.
“When I built my first sober morning routine, I realized how much time I'd wasted reacting instead of creating.”
Build Momentum.
Stacking wins. One pause, one day, one honest act at a time. Deepening mindfulness practices.
“Structure gave me safety. Chaos used to feel normal. Now peace does.”
Adjust. Develop. Rebuild.
Learning to respond, not react. Building emotional, mental, and spiritual muscles. Turning pain into purpose.
“You build it brick by brick, day by day. And 100 days from now, you'll see the proof: the glow in your face, the calm in your voice.”
Start Your 100-Day Journey Today
163 pages of real tools, real stories, and a real plan. Available in paperback.
About AJ
AJ was diagnosed as a Level 5 alcoholic with a 1% chance of survival. He went to 8 treatment centers across 7 facilities. He spent 561 consecutive days away from his family: in treatment, in sober living with veterans, and in isolation in an RV rebuilding himself from nothing.
Today he is 2+ years sober and the founder of SoberLife.club. The team behind SoberLife brings over 200 years of combined sobriety, along with licensed therapists, certified addiction counselors, and sober coaches.
This book is the written foundation of everything the community stands for. Practical, honest, and built for people who are done with excuses.
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Sobriety gave me everything I was trying to find at the bottom of a bottle.
AJ
Founder, SoberLife.club
The Deal
“I am officially putting this deal to anyone who is struggling with addiction. Give us one year. People go to college for four years. They go in the military for four years. One year is not unrealistic to reset your entire life.
If after a year of sobriety your life isn't better, I will personally take you back to your old life and buy the first round.”
AJ
Founder, SoberLife.club
Nobody has ever taken him up on this deal.
Who This Book Is For
This book is for you if...
You're sober-curious but haven't committed yet
You've tried before and it didn't stick
You don't fit the traditional AA mold
You want practical tools, not just theory
You're supporting someone in recovery
You need a plan, not a pep talk
This book is not for you if...
You're looking for a magic pill
You want theory without putting in the work
You're not ready to be honest with yourself
You expect results without changing anything
Frequently Asked
No. The book is mindfulness-based, not dogma-based. The central philosophy is "the pause" — creating space between impulse and action. AJ discusses AA and its spiritual foundations honestly, but the book is built for people of all backgrounds and belief systems.
No. AJ went through AA and credits it, but the book introduces the "Lone Wolf Mentality" as an alternative framework. Originally designed for military veterans, it's built on radical honesty, self-reliance, and forging your own path. The book helps you choose the approach that fits you.
AJ went to 8 treatment centers across 7 facilities over multiple years. He was given a 1% chance of survival. He wrote this book specifically because he knows what it's like when nothing seems to work. The approach is different because it meets you where you are, not where a program thinks you should be.
The tools, structures, and mindset work for any form of addiction. While AJ's personal story is about alcohol, the principles of the pause, identity reconstruction, and the 100-day framework apply to anyone fighting to break a cycle.
Three things. First, it includes actual therapist case notes alongside AJ's personal story, so you see recovery from both sides. Second, it covers modern traps that most books ignore entirely: kratom, delta-8, and gas station addiction products. Third, it comes with a built-in 100-day accountability system, not just advice.
Absolutely. Many readers buy copies for family members, friends, or people they sponsor. The book is written in a direct, judgment-free voice that doesn't lecture. It's the kind of thing you can hand someone and say: "just read the first chapter."
I wrote this book because I needed it to exist. Not for the person who has it all figured out, but for the one sitting in the dark at 3am wondering if it's even possible to come back from this.
It is. I promise you it is.
Your Future Self Is Waiting
The best time to start was yesterday. The second best time is right now.
Questions? Reach AJ at soberlife.club@gmail.com or call 239-448-5510